Give yourself permission

I’m a helper. An empath. A person who moves in compassion, and this only becomes more apparent in times of crisis. I also like naps. Netflix. But I don’t like feeling helpless. I don’t know how to respond when the world says to stop moving . When before it’s all I’ve ever known to do.…

As much as it takes…

"They just don't listen. Seriously. I am trying, but they just don't want to hear it." I don't know how many times over the years I have said this. Been discouraged that messages of love and kindness are rejected. Disillusioned by watching those I've tried to guide make unwise choice after unwise choice. Been treated…

What you wished you’d said….

Ugh! Go away! Get out of here! You are so annoying. A day in the life of sibling rivalry. And it seems to happen a lot here while both deal with the changes that come with growing up. “You go back in there. She is going to fix how she just spoke to you.” It’s…

Better than yesterday

Yesterday. Yesterday was tough. Yesterday you lost your temper. Yesterday you failed as a mom. Yelled at your kids. Snapped at your husband. A co-worker. A friend. Yesterday you slipped. You fell back into old habits. Looking for anything to take away the pain, grief, sadness, loneliness you feel. Yesterday you didn’t meet all the…

Well done….

  "Well, what do I get if I do that?" An all too common question. What is in it for me for serving, for being kind, for meeting an expectation? People are often surprised that I do not demand that my kids do more chores. Earn their keep around the house. Perform duties in order…

The One who stays…

Give up. Left. Let go. Abandoned. These are the things that may swim around in our hearts and heads when we choose to relinquish control of a situation. When we choose to let our children, despite our prudent advice, follow their own path. When we choose to untie the strings that bind us to a…

Take me as I am

Those the Father has given me will come to me, and I will never reject them. John 6:37 When I was a teen, I hated country music. I grew up in the 80’s and 90’s. It was not the era of Luke Bryan, Jason Aldean, and Keith Urban. Instead their was Joe Diffie, Dwight Yoakam,…

He didn’t “deserve” it either…

"Does it really even pay to be nice?" This is how the conversation started with a fellow, empathetic friend of mine. Going over the many times we have felt like doormats in the last few months. You know what doormats are, right? They get stepped on. That's what we had felt like. We had given…

To the Mom Wondering Where She Went Wrong

Each time he said, "My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness." 2 Corinthians 12:9 Dear Mom, I see you there. Weary. Worried. Wondering where you went wrong. I know you worry about judgment, condemnation, and the whispers that you must have done something wrong. There must be something you did for…